Over a million users looking to hook up tonight! Join and get in on the action.

Transgender Dating Online

A dating site for EVERYONE to hook up.

Dating is difficult enough when you fit into society’s most basic sexual conventions; when you’re gay or straight, lesbian or bisexual. In fact, it’s difficult at best. Many hate the process of misses and hits, repeated efforts, making the same mistakes and meeting the same people over and over again. It can seem utterly hopeless, and never-ending.

But if you self-identify as transgender, as an out transgender male or female, as transitioning, or simply identify as a gender different from the one assigned by the conventions of your birth and childhood, online dating sites can present more and very different challenges.

Away from online dating, in the real world of blind dates, friends-of-friends, dating services, and singles’ events, the elephant in the room being invisible doesn’t help: at least online, everything is out there in clear terms, and anyone pursuing a transgendered person’s dating profile has already made a decision about those terms.

Online Dating for the Transgender

With online dating, a significant part of the problem is the lack of mainstream dating sites that cater to–or are even prepared to serve–transgender people. The transgender will feel marginalized by most mainstream dating sites: few categorize for transgender dating as they do for straight, gay, and lesbian; and fewer still offer gender identifiers beyond the binary Male and Female. And those online dating services that do cater to the transgender are as marginal as the transgender are undeserved. Many transgender people enter the dating world identifying as gay or lesbian, even if they are seeking the opposite of the gender with which they identify. Some identify themselves as transgender in their dating profiles; some do not.

To Disclose or not to Disclose

Many transgender people who are actively dating believe it’s better to wait for a meaningful connection with a potential partner before disclosing that they are transgender. Others believe it should be disclosed right away.

Potential partners of transgender people can be misinformed, or uninformed: the mainstreaming of transgender issues is practically brand-new in our culture, and there is very little reliable information making its way to where anyone but the most socially concerned can find it. The transgender always risk being accused of dishonesty; they risk facing confusion about their anatomy; they risk simple homophobic ignorance from those with whom they have not disclosed that they are transgender. From those with whom they have disclosed that they are transgender, they risk distraction, being treated as a novelty, and a ceaseless struggle to secure validity as their gender.

Fine, In Theory

The west has taken great strides in accepting and extending rights to the diverse range of gender and sexual identities.  There’s no doubt about that!  Though the steps that have been taken cannot be dismissed.  It also cannot be overlooked that there are many more steps to be taken.  Nearly any transgender person who has ventured into the dating game is aware of that.

People sometimes consider themselves a great deal more open-minded, more culturally adjusted, than they actually are.  The transgender person who has struggled with dating will tell you about last-minute cancellations from apparently “comfortable” potential partners; about sexual cold feet; about awkwardness, about marginalization.

Even among some of the most progressive potential partners, there is a comfort gap.  When it comes to the transgender, they are fine with it, in theory.  In practice, they may feel very differently.

Transgender Online Dating & Social Media

A potential course for the transgender who are struggling to date is social media.  Sites like Facebook present opportunities to convene in online groups, even geographically, among like-minded, truly accepting, or transgender users.

Twitter and Instagram represent filter-friendly ways to connect; Reddit has a number of transgender-friendly subreddits, including one just for transgender dating and another popular one at r/asktransgender.

Social media sites like these can be used to make new connections, develop them, and ultimately to arrange meetings in the real world.


Dating is difficult for almost everyone seeking love, or at least a meaningful, sustained connection (or series of connections) with the potential to turn into something greater.  It is even more difficult for the transgender.  Who must validate, defend, and even prove elements of their identities before, while, or after meeting a potential partner.

The same things that can encourage and inform the straight, gay, lesbian, and bisexual people in the dating world.  Can inform the transgender: make a home for yourself in your body. Make decisions that reinforce your identity rather than expose it to scrutiny.  Don’t lose hope! Everyone struggles to find the right one; but that means the right one is out there struggling to find us.

Positive SSL Wildcard

Disclaimer: This website contains adult material. All members, and all persons appearing on the this site have contractually represented to, explicitly and by their continued use, that they are eighteen years of age, or older.

Explore adult dating and find local partners near you. Whether you are looking for a casual sex date, a discreet partner, swinger groups, multiple partners, or trying to start a long-term sex relationship, you can find matches worldwide with right here. From New York to Los Angeles, Boston to San Francisco, Atlanta to Seattle; from big cities like San Diego, Chicago, Philadelphia, Las Vegas, Houston, and Miami, to smaller cities like Springfield, Providence, Columbus, Denver, or Reno, has a partner for you. does not conduct background screening of its members for criminal or other records. To learn about internet dating safety, please click here.

Photographs featured on may contain images of non-members. We believe in protecting our members anonymity, 100%.

Copyright © 1996 - 2018 | All rights reserved.