39 – oral anal sex, salad tossing
ACDC – Bixexual
Aftercare – Time after play spent cuddling or winding down together
Ageplay – Role play that involves people being or performing as two different ages. The most classic example is teacher/student role play, but this can include adult babies, littles, and other situations.
Analingus – Oral anal sex
Aromas – Poppers
Ass play – Any play involving the ass, including analingus, fisting, anal sex, and more
Arts – Fetishes
Auto-masochism- A masochist hurting themselves
Ball weight – Attaching weights to testicles
Bareback – Refers to sex without a condom.
BBW – big beautiful woman
BDSM – A modern acronym used to refer to the kink and fetish communities and activities. It stands for Bondage, Domination, Sadism, and Masochism
Bear – Hairy gay men
BHM – Big Handsome Man
Bisexual – Refers to a person that has sex with both male and female partners.
Body Worship – Licking and stroking every part of someone’s body
Bondage – Tying someone up or restraining them. You can use cuffs, rope, chain or other things for this. Safety is a big concern if this is something you want to try.
Boot Worship – Licking, sucking, and stroking boots in a devoted and enthusiastic way
Bottom – The person receiving sensation. If you’re being spanked, penetrated, or tied up, you’re the bottom!
Buckle Bunny – someone who likes ranchers and rodeo participants
Bukkake – Japanese term for those having multiple men ejaculate on someone’s body.
Butt plug – Insertable with a tapered shape, inserted into the anus
Chastity belt – Device to secure the genitals to prevent sexual pleasure, can be for male or female
Clamps – Commonly clothespins or metal clamps used on nipples, genitals, or other skin for pleasure or pain
Consent – Saying yes to the activity. Consent is very important in BDSM dating. Negotiate before playing to make sure you have consent for the activities.
Cougar – an older woman that enjoys younger mentioned
Cross-dressing – Dressing as the opposite gender, usually for the purpose of sexual arousal
Cunnilingus – Orally stimulating the vagina
Cupping – Suction cups used on the body to elicit a response
Dental Damn – A latex sheet that serves as a barrier for analingus or cunnilingus to help prevent the spread of STDs.
Devotee – someone who appreciates amputees (or some other super specific thing like that)
Dom(me) – The dominant person in an activity. A Dom (male) or Domme (female) is the person in charge or in power in BDSM activities.
Double penetration – Having two openings filled at once. Anus, vagina or mouth.
Dungeon Monitor – The person(s) in charge of safety in a public dungeon. If you and your hook up play publicly, the dungeon master is in charge of making sure everyone is playing safely. They are in charge, like a sheriff.
D/s – Dominance and submission.
Exhibitionism – Arrousal gained by potential or actual exposure of sex acts or the naked body to an audience
Female ejaculation – Squirting. Ejaculation from the vagina
Feminization – A male forced to wear female clothing
Fetish – An object or action that turns you on. It might not be sexual on it’s own, but it turns you on. Examples are boots/high heels, foot fetish, leather, and rubber.
Figging – Using peeled ginger root for anal insertion.
Fisting – Fisting happens when someone uses lube to slowly work their fist into a vagina or anus. This is another thing where safety is a big concern, but instructional classes are available even online.
Flogger – Floggers are used in BDSM play. It’s a whip with multiple tails (or “falls”). They are made of leather, rubber, or other materials and are used to by a top to strike a bottom in fleshy areas like the butt.
Foot Fetish- Someone with a foot fetish will get their kicks rubbing, touching, or licking feet.
Frottage – To rub your body against another person or object to get sexually aroused.
Fucking Machine – A machine, usually AC powered, that uses mechanical parts and an attached dildo to penetrate an anus or vagina.
Full Swap – A couple who wants to switch partners with another couple
Gates of Hell – Male chastity device that restricts penis using metal or rubber rings along a strip of leather.
Genitorture – Causing consensual pain to the genitals
Glory holes – A place where ther are stalls with holes in the walls, the size and height appropriate for genital insertion. The person in the next stall then stimulates those genitals without seeing the person attached.
Golden Enemas – Using urine to give an enema or peeing directly into the anus
Greek – anal sexual play.
Hard Limit – Something you will not do, under any circumstances. Sometimes it’s just called a limit, but it’s saying that x-thing isn’t happening.
Little – A person who plays a role younger than their actual age or incorporates age regression into sexual encounters
Ménage à trois – A threesome
NSA – no strings attached
Pansexual – Beyond bisexual, a pansexual person is attracted to people beyond the male/female binary.
Parachute – A parachute piece of leather or rubber attached to the testicles
Pearl necklace – Ejaculation on the neck and chest, simulating a pearl necklace
Pet Play – Pretending that someone is an animal (like a puppy or kitty). This can involve treats, pet bowls, tails, and ears. Cat girls and leather pups are pretty easy to find online if you’re curious.
Play – Doing BDSM stuff. If you go to a play party, that’s a party where people will engage in BDSM activities.
Poly (Polyamory) – The opposite of monogamy, poly people have relationships of various kinds outside of monogamous partnerships
Rope Bunny – someone who enjoys being tied up
Rough Sex – Sex where things get rough. There might be scratching, biting, slapping, or spanking.
Sadomasochist – Someone who is both a sadist and a masochist
Safe call – A call or text made at a specific time during a first-meeting to confirm that the person is safe and has not been assaulted
Safeword – a pre-negotiated word that means no. The most common system mimics stoplights. Green means go. Yellow means slow down or back off on the sensation. Red means stop NOW.
Scat Play – playing with feces.
Shibari – literally, “Shibari” means “to tie” or “to bind.” It’s a kind of traditional Japanese rope bondage. Classes are available on this, and you want to pay attention to safety.
Sounding – From the medical practice. Sounding involves putting metal rods, carefully into someone’s urethra. This is another thing where you have to be safety conscious.
S/M – Sadism and masochism (or sadomasochism). It refers to sadists and masochists playing together.
SSBBW – super sized big beautiful woman (women over 250 or 300lbs)
Strap-on – A dildo harness
Submissive – The one not in control during a BDSM exchange
Switch – One who switches between roles, sometimes they top, sometimes they bottom.
Sybian – A saddle-like toy with an upright vibrating dildo, controlled by remote, that is straddled and ridden.
Top – The person providing sensation. If you’re penetrating another person, tying them up, or causing consensual pain, you’re the top.
Transgender- A person who does not identify with their assigned gender
Triple penetration- Three openings filled at once
Watetsports/Golden Showers – Peeing on someone or being peed on – play with urine.
Bisexual Married Female
Bisexual Married Male
Divorced Black Female
Divorced Black Male
Drug and Disease Free
Double D Chest Size
Divorced White Female
Divorced White Male
Female For Female
Female For Male
Female For Male & Female (woman looking for a couple)
Female to Male (transgender)
Gay Black Female
Gay Black Male
Gay White Female
Gay White Male
In Search Of
In Real Life
I Love You
Long Term Relationship
Looking for a group
Long Distance Relationship
Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender
Man For Men
Male For Female
Married But Available
Married Black Female
Married Black Male
Male & Female for Male & Female
Male & Female for Female
Male & Female For Male
Married Jewish Female
Married Jewish Male
Male to Female (transgender)
Married With Children
Married White Female
Married White Male
No Strings Attached
Over The Knee, usually for spanking
Prince Albert piercing
Risk Aware Consensual Kink
Role Playing Games
Single Asian Female
1. Single Asian Male
2. Smart Assed Masochist
Single and Loving It
Single Black Female
Single Black Male
Single Christian Female
Single Christian Male
Single Hispanic Female
Single Hispanic Male
Single Income No Kids
Single Jewish Female
Single Jewish Male
Sense of Humor
Safe Sane Consensual
Sexually Transmitted Disease/Sexually Transmitted Infection
Single White Female
Single White Male
Sealed With A Kiss
Vaginal Double Penetration (two penises inside one vagina)
Women For Men
Women For Women
Would Like To Meet