Let’s face it: adult dating can be rough. Sex dating involves a lot of first meetings, and those are a blur of small talk, fear of rejection, and assessing compatibility. A dating site without good tools can make it hard to find a match, and you end up relying on trial and error. Search tools and profile options are the places you judge a potential sex partner, and the more information you have, the better.
Adult dating is a lot like a roller coaster. It has its ups and its downs, but in the end you get a good ride and have some fun. Expressing your desires with a potential hook up can be a scary proposition, but as long as you know what you want and show your confidence, you’ll be fine. And when you find that flame, you won’t be afraid to let it heat up the bedroom.
Sex dating is a little more delicate than regular dating. Personal boundaries and sexual needs have to match up just right. There are a few tips for success we can give you though. They are observations gathered from helping people hook up for years.
First, you’re going to get a reputation if you hook up regularly or you’re sending out a lot of emails. What that reputation is, well that’s largely up to you. If you send of emails calling names, disregarding consent, and only worrying about your own needs, you’re going to get a reputation for being a fuckboy, which is not good. If you send out polite emails, ask questions, and you’re honest about yourself and respectful of your potential matches, you’ll be pulling down a gaggle of ass in no time, and you’ll have a reputation for being awesome. It’s not really that hard.
Next, make sure you’re marketing yourself correctly. Sure, you’re more complicated than a tv or an infomercial product, but dating profiles work a lot like billboards. If your profile doesn’t catch the eye, you’re not getting a lot of response. It’s not rocket science. Add good pictures, keep the dick pics to a minimum (and don’t make them your main picture), don’t leave the text portion blank, and be charming. If someone reads your profile, they see a nice smiling picture of your face and your text is clear, polite, and honest, you’re going to do well.
That brings us to another point, be honest! People will understand your need for discretion, and everyone here is looking for the same thing, so don’t lie. Don’t lie about your age, weight, or marital status. Trust us, a potential match can sniff out any of those three lies. Confidence is your most attractive feature, so whatever you’ve got to disclose, do it with confidence and it’s not going to hurt your chances.
Here are a few more great adult dating tips for those of you looking to appear charming and hook up regularly.
If the most interesting thing you have to talk about is the difference between liquid fabric softener and dryer sheets, you’re not going to get to the point of unbuttoning your fly. Chances are the lady you want to hook up with will want to discuss something outside of sex. Keep up with current events, have a few true and interesting stories to tell, and keep a few tricks up your sleeve that impress the ladies without making you look pretentious. It’s not overly hard. If you’re interesting, show it. If you aren’t, get interesting.
I don’t mean about sex and your dick. What I mean is not presuming things will go a certain way. Ask about her preferences, her likes, her interests outside of naked fun time. Instead of saying, “we’re going to…”, ask her if she’d like to do things a certain way. Nothing closes a woman’s legs faster than a man mansplaining sex to her or assuming she’s into certain things, so be reasonable and approach ladies as people first and sexy friends second.
Have Good Ideas
Remember when we talked about having a few tricks to impress the ladies? One of those tricks is having a few good ideas for where to take a lady and things to do. Showing a woman something she hasn’t seen before, consensually, is an adult dating mainstay you can believe in. If you know where to go see naked acrobats or where a burlesque style speakeasy is, it could be a great ice breaker. Good ideas for things to do together is one of the things that makes you interesting. So go take a sex class together in your city. You can find them at a lot of adult bookstores or just by a quick internet search. The benefits of sex classes are immeasurable. First, you create an environment where she’s comfortable talking about her sexual needs, and you learn to do something new (like bondage or spanking) safely and effectively, making you a better lover for this hookup and all future hookups. It’s an investment in your sexual future, and a fun date!
Day After Etiquette
Don’t underestimate the power of a good referral. If you want to see your hookup again or you just want to protect that reputation we talked about, sending a day after text or calling the next day is adult dating 101. This lets your hookup know that you care that she got home safely and has a good impression of the night before. It also provides an opportunity for feedback on your strengths/weaknesses. Don’t include a survey or anything, just provide an opening for her to mention anything and use that information to strengthen your game.
There’s no reason that adult dating can’t be simple and fun for everyone. With all the matches on HookUP.com, there’s someone for everyone. Be honest, be safe, and be yourself, and your hook ups will be plenty!